Average Of 5 People
You are the average of 5 people you spend your most of the time with.
The people you spend the most time with shape who you are. They determine what conversations dominate your attention. They affect to which attitudes and behaviors you are regularly exposed. Eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.
As Darren Hardy writes in The Compound Effect:
“According to research by social psychologist Dr. David McClelland of Harvard, [the people you habitually associate with] determine as much as 95 percent of your success or failure in life.”
That’s huge.
And it has important consequences.
The dream in your heart may be bigger than the environment in which you find yourself. Sometimes you have to get out of that environment to see that dream fulfilled.
It’s a fact of life that some people hold us back, while other propel us forward. That’s just the way it is, so you might as well accept it and learn how to deal with it instead of wishing that reality was different.
For instance, you can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life.
More importantly, if you do all the right things, but don’t get around people who hold you to a higher standard, then you are more likely to fail.
The lesson here is to actively construct your social environment. Don’t let it depend on proximity or chance or on how it has always been, but consciously plan which opinions, attitudes and life-philosophies you do and do not allow to be in your life.
These days, people are keen to emphasize that everyone lives in his or her own bubble. In that case, we might as well try to make sure that our bubble is the one that rises highest the one that makes us reach our goals.
Now The Questions Arise that how to tackle this kind of Situation ?
So here is the answer -:
1) Building your squad
At this point, you probably want to know how to select team members — which criteria to use for engineering your social context.
Be that as it may, the goal of this essay is to make you think about that, and I don’t write lifehacky-stuff, so I can’t give you a concrete action plan here.
Moreover, I’m of the opinion that what it means to win the game of life depends on you.
By extension, what the best people to surround yourself with will be like, depends on you as well. Therefore, that’s for you to figure out.
2) Surround yourself with people you admire.
We become like the people that we (choose to) expose ourselves to. It follows that you can accelerate your personal growth in whatever direction you desire by spending time with people who already are who you want to become.
That will infect you with the behaviors and attitudes that helped them achieve their success, making it more likely that you will realize similar results in your life.
So, ask yourself: Who do you spend the most time with? Who are the people you most admire? Are those two groups of people the same?
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